7.07.2011

Just Because

Just because you feel it, doesn't mean it's how things are.

Just because you're hurting, doesn't mean you're wounded.

Just because you say it, doesn't mean that you mean it.

Just because you heard it, doesn't mean you understand it.

Just because you know it, doesn't mean you've accepted it.

Just because you've accepted it, doesn't mean it's okay, right, correct or how things should be.

Life doesn't work in absolutes. Period. There is no such thing as black and white, right or wrong, good or bad. There's how you feel about things and that's pretty much it. We're predisposed to reject pain and accept pleasure. That's our basis for determining right, wrong, good, bad, black, white.

Sometimes, you're supposed to get hurt. Sometimes, you're supposed to take a shot right to the jaw. One you never saw coming. You're supposed to know what that feels like, so you can know how to recover from it, and how to look for it next time.

That's what makes you stronger. Smarter. Whole.

Metamorphisis is painful. Just because it hurts, doesn't mean it's not a good thing. Let go of preconceptions of good and bad and accept that pain simply reminds you of how good pleasure can feel and vice versa. You will say things you don't mean to reject pain. You will pretend you've accepted things to just move past them and stop having to deal with them. You will languish in periods of pleasure and let things that cause pain slide or go without addressing them.

Just because you don't see it doesn't mean it's not there. And just because it's there doesn't mean you have to go seek it out and face it. When you get hit, accept that you got hit... And then don't get hit the same way again.